I am not sure if you can call it a secret but there are a few guidelines to follow when parenting teenage boys. Boys are different to deal with then their female counterparts. They share many of the same problems that the females do but will often react to them in a different way. Parenting teenage boys takes patience and understanding. Boys tend to withdraw from their problems and in order to maintain their ego will put up a defense if approached for questioning. How well your growing boys do during these trying times and how it will affect your family life depends a lot on how you the parent handles the situation.
When it comes to peer pressure, boys get their fair share. It is very important for most boys to fit in with the other guys. Normally you are either in the circle or watching from the outside. You are either popular or not. Even if the teenage boy is not actually unpopular he may tend to perceive himself as being so. It is a constant challenge to prove his worth by showing that he has what it takes to be one of the guys. This is very important to teenage boys. When they feel like they are unpopular and not with the in crowd they tend to get depressed and this can make parenting our growing youth very stressful and not a whole lot of fun.
Boys often find themselves in one of two categories. Some are full of confidence and they know they can make friends and have their way with the opposite sex. This can often lead to problem relationships with girls because the boy may not want to settle with one girl. Other teenage boys lack self-confidence and believe they lack the good looks and charm to make friends and confront girls. This can cause a teenage boy to become depressed and withdrawn. When parenting teenage boys the one thing you should remember is that these boys hurt when relationships don't work out as well. They feel the pain although they may not show it as much. This can make parenting hard.
Parenting teenage boys can get rough. It is hard to get any teenager to talk if they do not wish to do so. They are under so much pressure to gain independence and separation from the umbrella of their parents that they often cannot see the forest for the trees. Boys want to be accepted and appreciated just as much as teenage girls. Down deep they want to be loved and they want to succeed. Teenage boys have to adhere to the male ego and sometimes that gets in their way. The best way to relate to your teenage boys is to keep the lines of communication open. Build a relationship based on trust and honesty. Give them some space to show you what they can do. Set some ground rules but give them some room to learn from their mistakes. Love them and try to understand them and parenting our young men will be much easier to do.